My youngest daughter, Rose, is a girl who loves physical contact. Sometimes it's the kind parents like to discourage (hitting, pulling, etc) but usually she just wants someone to sit next to her on the couch so you can cuddle. It's very cute.
Rose is now 4. She's big. I'm not super big. She really does not fit on my lap any more. But she still thinks she's a lap baby. On the couch this is acceptable as I can usually adjust to be comfortable, but at the dining room table, while I'm drinking hot coffee and trying to read my emails (or god forbid type something!) it is much less comfortable.
I really don't want to discourage her love of human contact, but how can I keep her off my lap for just those 15 minutes I need in the morning to eat and catch up with the world? If she does manage to climb up there she then wants to "make letters!" or "push the arrow!" which is fine if I'm just browsing around, but after about 2 minutes my legs hurt and I have to get up. Then she gets the computer and I'm left standing, drinking my coffee. Not quite fair.
I know distraction is best, but the tv is already on, her Dad's lap is somehow inferior to mine, and I'm just a human contact magnet I guess. Do your (large) kids still insist on lap time? Do you let them and suffer the consequences? or have you find a solution? Please do share any ideas or insights you've discovered!
Toodles!
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Thursday, 11 June 2015
Sunday, 31 May 2015
Happy Bedtimes Are Best
I'm finding the best time to write is between bedtimes. As long as Patrick is home too, otherwise forget about taking 10 minutes for myself! Rose starts her bedtime at 7 or so, and if she's having a good night we're done by 7:15 - but if it's a "bad" night (or I waited too long to start bed and she's overtired) it can be drawn out for 30 or 45 minutes. On the bright side Emma is quite patient and easily entertained on those nights where I'm busy for-what-feels-like-ever with Food TV or YouTube or some other screen time thing.
I find it interesting how bedtime routines change over the small child lifetime. I started this journey with a baby who would only nurse to sleep, and then would only stay asleep while being held - god forbid you set baby Emma down when you thought she was asleep. A baby swing was a huge help, but you can't let your baby sleep in one of those all night! Napping basically only happened in the car and we co-slept with her so she could nurse to sleep and then not be moved. That was a rough habit to break, but looking back now I barely remember it. Likely because she had a lot of endurance and would cry for an hour (or more) at night before she learned how to self soothe. But she did, and now her "bedtime" is actually a very long process as she and Rose start at about the same time (7pm) but she isn't actually in bed ready to sleep until 8 or slightly after. She usually has her Dad time where they read books together and then watch her cooking shows that she loves. Once I'm done with Rose I can escape to my blog if there's time left, otherwise I watch a few minutes of tv with them and then read Emma a story or two, have "conversations" for a few minutes and then turn out her light - or at least say goodnight if she's not entirely tired and she'll "read" for a bit and turn out her own light when she's done. The change is night and day with her.
Rose went the other way - she started out as a great baby. You could nurse her, take her off, burp her, change her, whatever and she'd be happy to be laid down sleepy but awake and just nod off on her own. We used a soother a bit with her but then she found her thumb, and now we're working at breaking that habit (although not too hard, yet.) Then she got older and more demanding as a 2 and 3 year old where I got stuck reading 5 to 10 books a night, because I knew if I just read them I could then get out and move on to Emma - otherwise Rose would cry and carry on and keep coming out of her room and not sleeping. I'd try occasionally to put my foot down, but the sad, teary face broke my heart every time and I'd give in. But thankfully she's grown out of that phase and we are down to 2 books a night (3 if she chooses her "barn books" which are in a cardboard barn as a set so of course you have to read them all...) then kisses and goodnight.
Bedtime can be the sweetest time of day when you get one-on-on time with each child. You can have a few quiet minutes talking about how the was and how you had fun together. I know as they get older bedtimes will change again and they won't need the longer Mommy time and I will surely miss it. I guess I'll have to try harder to soak it in and not rush through it as I'm wont to do on the million-story evenings.
Toodles!
I find it interesting how bedtime routines change over the small child lifetime. I started this journey with a baby who would only nurse to sleep, and then would only stay asleep while being held - god forbid you set baby Emma down when you thought she was asleep. A baby swing was a huge help, but you can't let your baby sleep in one of those all night! Napping basically only happened in the car and we co-slept with her so she could nurse to sleep and then not be moved. That was a rough habit to break, but looking back now I barely remember it. Likely because she had a lot of endurance and would cry for an hour (or more) at night before she learned how to self soothe. But she did, and now her "bedtime" is actually a very long process as she and Rose start at about the same time (7pm) but she isn't actually in bed ready to sleep until 8 or slightly after. She usually has her Dad time where they read books together and then watch her cooking shows that she loves. Once I'm done with Rose I can escape to my blog if there's time left, otherwise I watch a few minutes of tv with them and then read Emma a story or two, have "conversations" for a few minutes and then turn out her light - or at least say goodnight if she's not entirely tired and she'll "read" for a bit and turn out her own light when she's done. The change is night and day with her.
Rose went the other way - she started out as a great baby. You could nurse her, take her off, burp her, change her, whatever and she'd be happy to be laid down sleepy but awake and just nod off on her own. We used a soother a bit with her but then she found her thumb, and now we're working at breaking that habit (although not too hard, yet.) Then she got older and more demanding as a 2 and 3 year old where I got stuck reading 5 to 10 books a night, because I knew if I just read them I could then get out and move on to Emma - otherwise Rose would cry and carry on and keep coming out of her room and not sleeping. I'd try occasionally to put my foot down, but the sad, teary face broke my heart every time and I'd give in. But thankfully she's grown out of that phase and we are down to 2 books a night (3 if she chooses her "barn books" which are in a cardboard barn as a set so of course you have to read them all...) then kisses and goodnight.
Bedtime can be the sweetest time of day when you get one-on-on time with each child. You can have a few quiet minutes talking about how the was and how you had fun together. I know as they get older bedtimes will change again and they won't need the longer Mommy time and I will surely miss it. I guess I'll have to try harder to soak it in and not rush through it as I'm wont to do on the million-story evenings.
Toodles!
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